A nine year old is expelled from school for being violent towards his classmates. His mother is compelled to consult. A week later, the child's behaviour is transformed. The mother had been advised to play with him 10 minutes per day before school. Imposing limits to, "a bad behaviour", is bound to failure, we have a better way in addressing its motive. Aggressive behaviour originates in a stressed brain (stress response: Fight/flight/freeze). First of all, whether or not it's the core problem, the child needs attachment. Love is fuel, not reward. Attachment fills the cup and helps the child calm enough his neural circuits mediating stress in order to be able to analyse the problem, identify the trauma, the blocked emotions, and the difficulties he faces.
Psychotherapy Meets Africa
7th World Congress on Psychotherapy
25-29 August 2014, Durban, South Africa
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